The tragedy and danger of assumption, be careful
The assumption is a serious business of psychological inefficiency and categorical syllogism. It comes as an act of taking for granted, or supposing a thing without proof; a supposition; an unwarrantable, assertive, or laying claim; an unverified or unexamined belief taking to or upon oneself; a willingness to accept something as true without question for clarification or proof; an idea that is formed without evidence; and finally a perceptive error that results in jumping into conclusion believing to be true.
Assumptions are the termites of relationships. It negatively affects our relationships in several important ways. We unconsciously make assumptions and judgments about (1) other people’s behavior, (2) other people’s intentions behind their behavior, and (3) our behavior and intentions.
The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth! We invent a story to suit our intentions and take them personally.
Often, people will have divergent perceptions of what occurred based on their assumptions, expectations, experience, and history, to an extent employing some degree of generalization to score a point.
Assumptions are taken as fact when there is no proof. They are often preconceived misconceptions about a situation, person, group, or task – likely based on past experiences with others.
Making false assumptions causes us to become less grounded in reality and more prone to creating problems for ourselves and others. To stop making assumptions and base our understanding on tangible facts is impressive.
Sometimes assumptions are helpful, but often they can prove unproductive—or even damaging.
Assumptions lead to ‘shut relationships. We stop being open and receptive to the other person, stop trying to connect, stop making effort, or even walk away from a relationship or quit a job, all based on our assumptions. Assumptions create constant tension and conflict.
It’s really easy to build positions about people and to formulate what you believe about a person based on assumptions rather than reality. This is not only dangerously toxic, but it’s also a sinful misrepresentation of the person.
Assumptions are often necessary for decision-making, but we need to avoid wrong suppositions if we want to make the right choices. We can get things wrong by applying assumptions in inappropriate circumstances, basing expectations on bad data, or making assumptions based on wrong thinking.
*Things To Consider:*
©️Assumption kills like poison. Any small thing, we assume, thinking others are doing what we think not what we validate by a personal eyewitness.
©️Someone doesn’t pick up our calls, we assume he or she is avoiding us or is up to something.
©️Someone doesn’t give us the money we asked for, we assume he or she is stingy and wicked…
©️Someone doesn’t call, hang out or visit you as he/she usually does. We assume they are no longer caring or intimate again, then comes the anger and repulsive attitude towards them.
©️ We never care to know and understand that issues of life can set in to choke them. Also, the issues of life are diverse, and not the same.
©️Once we are turned or rejected, we start assuming. The power of verification of issues is more significant for more connection with healthy people to get to the top.
©️We don’t put into consideration what the other party might be going through or experiencing. Always have it at the back of your mind that, other people might not be in a pleasant mood like you.
©️The guy that promised you money might get into a financial situation a day before he’s supposed to give you the money.
✓The person that didn’t pick up your call was probably in a meeting or busy at that moment, or even sleeping. He might not be in the mood to take your call.
✓We just assume instead because it’s easier and it tends to make us the good guys.
✓Give someone the benefit of the doubt, make an excuse for that person.
It’s not always as it seems in your mind and head.
*Maintain relationships with people What you RESPECT will COME towards you and what you don’t RESPECT will RUN away from you.
✓It is childish and immature to pick offense at every provocation or perceived wrongness and then start keeping grudges as a result.
Grow above it.
✓Someone did not invite you to their wedding, you pick offense with them.
✓Someone didn’t wish you happy birthday, you pick offense with the person
✓They didn’t like your Facebook post, you pick offense.
✓They didn’t support you in a disagreement you had with someone, you pick offense with them.
✓They are junior and they dare to talk or oppose your opinion. You pick offense with them.
✓They said No to your request, you pick offense, and malice starts.
✓You asked them for money, and they said they didn’t have it, you pick offense with them.
✓You are even keeping a record of people who brought gifts to your wedding or attend any occasion you organise, those who blessed you because you helped them, you have a list of those who give you gifts or money always among your colleagues, so you can know who to pick offense with.
@Everyone has their battles you are not aware of.
@Those who you need help from are also looking for help.
@Not everything is personal and intentional
@Not everyone hates you.
@ Sometimes people are just caught up with their own lives, struggles, human weaknesses, and limitations.
@Learn how to manage being disappointed by people and still be on talking terms with them. It will save you a lot of UNNECESSARY grudges and save you some FRIENDSHIPS you may need in the Future.
Grow above offenses, Grow without offenses, Grow to ignore offenses, and never Grow above offenses to hurt yourself. Forgive! Forgive! Forgive! And learn the craft of clarification of proof to establish fact with evidence to polish your conviction for reality.